Sounds like this t was saying, the cure to cptsd is attachment, which i agree with, but then he says - but find someone else to attach to. I think that just retraumatizes us in the same way our mothers did. It was/is their job, but they shirk it, for whatever reasons.

Its hard first to exactly articulate the problem, because htf are we supposed to know whats wrong with us? Then it is difficult to find a t who speaks our love or attachment language, and who can takes things non-literally (for me, anyway), and who knows what to do to help heal us. We otoh must be patient and be willing to take risks.