Hi everyone and thank you for reading my post and offering your best advice. I have a lot to share, so please bear with me..

My problem began in 2011 (I was a senior in H.S) and I introduced my boyfriend (at that point we were dating for a year) to my parents for the first time. I was 17 at the time and my bf was 18. He came over and met my parents and was very respectful. The next day, my parents flipped at me to end the relationship because they didn't like his looks. Mind you, we are the same religion and ethnicity but he is a little darker than I am. My mom got into a whole fight about how he is ugly and If I ever considered what my kids would look like...it was pretty bad. Soon after that passed they ended up finding out that I also slept with my bf...which made the situation even more worse. My dad threatened to cut off my school tuition for college if I didn't break up with him. I ended up lying to them that I will end everything however I didn't.

Fast forward to today, the relationship has been going on secretly for 5 years. I really love my bf and there was no reason other than my parents disapproval to break up with him. I am now 22 finished with college and working and my bf is 23 in school. I recently told them that I ran into him and wanted to give us a second chance and all hell broke lose. I couldn't tell them we were dating this entire time but I needed to find a way to break the ice about him. My parents flipped and are demanding that I have nothing to do with him and to find someone better that they would approve. I am so torn I don't know what to do. I love my bf very much and we been thru a lot and his parents love me and offered me to stay with them. my parents are threatening to disown me and shame me to family...please help