My ex used to always say, (still does at times, and we've been done for 7 months) "I'm wary of you, I don't know what you're up to". It's like, 'okay then, WHY ARE YOU EVEN HERE??' I have no ulterior motives, if I want something from him, I'll just out with it. But he turns everything around on me (or used to, I'm wise to it now) by saying that one phrase...which would make me believe everything was MY fault, that I was the one of which HE should be wary...when it was always the other way around; his tactic just worked. Key word: WORKED (past tense) Now, when he says this, I just say, 'well, there's the door if you're so wary...use it'. He never does.