The best therapist I had told me over and over I was okay the way I am. That helped me SO SO SO much. I hated myself so intensely and blamed myself for everything bad in my life and my family's lives and even stranger's lives that I could barely function. He told me over and over I just needed to see myself the way I really am. I have started doing that a little bit and it has changed so much. It has been hard and quieting those horrible, negative voices in my head is difficult, but just having someone tell me I'm okay the way I am was very healing.