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Originally Posted by pbutton
Actually, really really REALLY REALLY REALLY deep down, I don't agree with myself. I'm human and have the same needs as all other humans. But dismissive avoid ants are also self-abusive bullies. Better to be mean to myself and disavow any feelings of that nature, rather than admit to weakness. Any non dismissive feelings simply do not exist. (even though they do) So even the inner turmoil is sucked down under the surface, where it festers with no outlet. So we can have mood mental health issues even when "nothing is wrong" and we're totally "happy" with life. Go figure.
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Pea, you have really travelled a great distance from where you were. Maybe i should have quoted your previous post. It was very enlightening about the value and use of attachment or attachment style. Once you know what another person is capable of or not (moreso "or not"), you dont bang your head against a brick wall anymore trying to connect to the unconnectable. If you yourself can move away from fearful to secure, that also empowers you to stop trying the impossible, and maybe looking for the possible. At least you can find bits of possible where it does exist. Some people say life consists of moments.