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Originally Posted by Tongalee
In response to everyone else, I understand that this works for some and thank you for your input. I'm gong to have to let my therapist know that it's just not something that I ever consider working for me. All of my bad dreams have happened and that's not going to change. The idea of reimagining then so that something better happens is pointless. I would rather just focus on how to handle my upset once they do. Calming techniques not remove yourself from reality ones.
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I totally get using calming techniques and not trying to change the scenarios. I get so mad at people who say well just change it. Become a superhero and save that little girl. Imagine the therapist saving you. I can't do that stuff. I won't do that stuff. I went through a huge part of my life believing that nobody would ever believe me. I need to keep honoring the truth of what happened to me. But, I put all of the stuff in a locked up box, in a boat, that I tether to the land on the longest rope in the world, but then send that boat out to sea. So far that I cannot see it anymore. And I bring it back when the information in the nightmare or the flashback or the conversation in therapy will be helpful and necessary again. Sometimes that boat gets blown into shore again and again and I have to reel it back out again and again. But it has gotten lots easier over time.