So I know that one of my longheld, mostly untrue beliefs are that I'm an unlikeable person. I even go so far as to convince myself that friends are making fun of me or dislike me, and back it up with "proof" like they haven't talked to me all day when in reality we're all so busy.

So I cognitively recognize I do this, and know that what I'm thinking is likely distorted, but I can't control how I emotionally react, which is usually with disappointment, loneliness, sadness, fear. See, I can even name what I'm feeling and why I'm feeling it and how it's not necessary.

But how do I change the emotional reaction so that it's more balanced and not so extreme?