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Originally Posted by Agarwaen
As a person that has felt some of the things you have, I empathize. The concept of people having rejected your mind made me think. At first I wanted to say no, nobody knows my mind. But the perception thereof is good enough, yes?
I have never kept my walls up, and I have been repeatedly disappointed. That doesn't mean I haven't had precious relationships along the way. It just means to me that it always ends. Whether that be from some external force or not, i.e., acts of God, etc., it always ends.
I have debated social interactions and the deceit within. These rituals are simply filled with deceit, to avoid unpleasant truths. But are they necessary for a civil society? That is my question.
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That's the thing is that most people tend to think that no one knows their mind and that their mind is bottomless and all knowing. Not exactly true. We can all tend to be narcissistic I think. Those "deep minds" to outsiders no matter how deep can usually be lumped into a shallow box. A shallow box that can be organized into wants and un-wants.
No one can ever really know how deep someone's mind is.
Probably not fair as an outsider to judge the depth of someone's mind. Determining the depth is up to the one who owns that mind. As an outsider we can only determine the depth by their actions. Some will play a charade of being deep by doing things that make them appear more intelligent. Reading books for example. They want the world to know, "HEY I'M DEEP! I'm intelligent."
As humans, we all want to be graced with praise or positive reactions since we tend to be social beings.
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The pleasant lies are probably required in a civil society. I could see how much more hurtful honesty would be in a society. Like that movie, "The invention of lying." People seem to be confused as to when and where they should lie though. Or then again maybe they aren't. Lies are always used to either be gentle or save face. They fear the possible consequence of honesty and want to keep the illusion that they are being good. They couldn't stand the idea that they are bad. Everything they do is right and has a good reason. At least to them.
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Relationships do seem to end one way or another. For me they end because of my walls. I fear to let others in for reasons such as a possible fear of intimacy. Or that emotions are uncomfortable and I prefer to keep it to the lying front of normal interaction.