I wonder if after having a day to de-stress if it's possible to consider the idea that maybe there was an emotional over-reaction to losing ten minutes of your session? It's a pisser, alright, but is it worth that much upset?

I think it's good for us to question our emotional reactions, whether they're helpful to us or get in our way and if they represent any kind of pattern in our lives that may cause us problems. I do that sort of thing all the time -- basically, I count ten to calm down. Maybe count 100. I happen to be a highly emotional person, with my emotions near the surface and sometimes something will set me off that later ... well, I know I was over-reacting. And then I start asking myself what triggered that big response?

Maybe I'm not as emotional as others here. To me, ten minutes for a personal call from a doctor about a family member would be at most a minor annoyance, unless such things were happening on a regular basis. I do seem to remember that you've posted before about having emotional responses to a few times when something was going on with her daughter.

Could this reaction specifically have something to do with the mother-daughter relationship that particularly brings out emotions? Or is this a feeling of being deprived and it triggers old past feelings of deprivation? Or just being in a bad mood and when this was added on top of the bickering with T it was too much to take? Is it a feeling of being under-valued?

Those are the kinds of questions I ask myself when I've had a big emotional response. To me, getting all bent out of shape when something doesn't go the way I'd like it to go doesn't necessarily serve me well. That's why I ask myself all those questions. I want to self-assess. What's going on with me? Then, back when my T was still alive, I'd talk to him about it and we'd analyze it some more from different angles. My goal was to be free from being tossed around so violently by my emotions.

I was surprised by the angry responses from so many people who found her taking a call from the doctor an intolerable act and you should not be billed etc etc. How many people pay for calls, texts and emails made out of session? Is there room in therapy for some human understanding going in both directions? Or is it all about "you done me wrong and now you have to pay?"

To me, these are serious questions that helped me get at what was making me tick. I had been plagued by "you done me wrong" feelings because, in fact, I had been done terribly wrong when I was too powerless to fight it. Getting rid of that stuff improved my life tremendously. Hence, all my opining here. It's serious stuff.

I wish you the best.