what videos are they? i think you should just write on some paper "thought u might want them" then, either he will get all guilty coz of it, which it serves him right, or he will take it as an act of compassion on your part. but then it depends on what he videoed. if it was you two doing,,,,well you know,,, then if u dont mind, send it to the media,,,see his face, he was cruel to u it seems.
you had every right to try and screw money outta him for being emotionally mean... i dont know i dunno the whole story
take care all
self