You told her things you never have before so she probably thinks all is ok. If that had been me I would have shut down for a bit and discussed my feelings then and there. As you carried on and even opened up further she probably sees no wrong.

If her behaviour upset you then you get to feel upset. Tell her next time you would appreciate a warning if she expects a call. It's common courtesy. As for missing 10 mins then ask her if you can have that time another day or apply it to the emails she sends.