If I had only read this post, I would have said "yes, contact her." However, I just read your other posts and, as of Jan. 29, you indicated you were still with him and very confused and unsettled about your situation. It does not appear that you are in a healthy place. If you are still with him or have only left in the last 2 weeks, you are really not in a place to contact this friend who asked not to be involved in your healing journey. I think you need to go through this journey with your therapist and other friends who are willing to offer you support. Once you have been away from this man for a YEAR and are absolutely never going back-- then I think it would be appropriate to contact this friend and say that you are past this. But, right now, you are in the thick of it and it just wouldn't be fair to ask this friend to deal with any of that.