Mouse I know. And I think the boundaries are totally necessary (especially after reading on here of how it can go wrong for people without them). I think control is a bit of an issue for me - being controlled as a child (I elected to be submissive to survive, not a submissive though), and the issue of control is there in my relationship with my T to be worked on. (You may remember my recent posts about me wanting less analysis, more space for me to talk about things I want to, that could be looked at in terms of control).