I guess I'm kind of lucky in that my mother finally recognized that she abused me. It made things a bit easier.

But even before that, I learned to forgive her. Not for her sake, but my own. It took time--it wasn't until I was about 25. Then at 39 I cut off contact with her. This was a year ago. We recently started talking again, but I REALLY have to enforce strict boundaries with her.

As for therapy not working, it took me 15 years to find a good T! Sad, I know. Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) has been very helpful. :-)

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