I hate to get all judgy, but it sounds like you have more experience than she does. A first appointment will settle that, so I hope that's just an ill-formed first impression on my part. I like therapists who can articulate what they do and what their experience is.

For me, it was less about the questions and more about the intangibles--the feel for my therapist's honesty and relational skills. Did she appear to see me as an individual? Was she secure, but not arrogant? Flexible? When I asked if she thought she could help me, and she said she didn't know, I liked that. When I asked if she could hang in there, and she said that was the one thing she did well, I liked that too. When I asked if I could just have a place to go and feel plugged in somewhere, she said that was just fine.

I don't know beyond that...share your main issues and see how she responds. Is she a passive listener-type? Does she jump to conclusions or pat responses? Does she listen and interact thoughtfully? More importantly, how do you feel physically and emotionally with her questions and answers?