You're right one canīt expect to have a strong emotional connection right away. I think in my situation now itīs much about intuition and how I apprehend this T to be.
As I havenīt chosen this T, Iīve only told her Iīll think about if I want to proceed into therapy I do think she might think itīs not a good start if I present several things Iīm sceptical about or donīt like.
Itīs very true the thing about feelings around never getting the former T back. I seem to never stop crying over this.
I assume itīs better doing something than nothing, that is go into therapy instead of just sitting at home doing nothing. But as I have to pay for therapy myself, the wrong choice has severe consequences as you donīt get your money back if not satisfied.
The thing with this is also that thereīs no question at all I could ask this potential T that would give me an answer as there is no answer. I mean, she could never, out of obvious reasons, tell me if the emotional bond will grow or not, if it will be strong enough or not.
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Originally Posted by Salmon77
I don't think you can expect to have a strong emotional connection right away, especially since you seem rather hesitant to trust. If you give it time, I believe the emotional connection will grow. I suspect you are not correct that the new T would reject you for expressing your concerns.
Your sadness might relate to your grief over your previous T. The fact that you are getting a new T means that you are moving on and accepting that you will never get the old one back. Clearly that is a difficult thing for you. But you are doing the right thing.
Then doesn't it make more sense to continue feeling bad while doing something that might help (the new therapy) than to continue doing nothing?
I hope things work out for you with this new T. There's no guarantee but it sounds promising to me.
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