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Originally Posted by Webgoji
For what it's worth, Zoloft was awful for me and Wellbutrin might as well have been children's aspirin. I bounced through a lot of them; Celexa, Effexor and I've finally landed on Viibryd which works great for me. So it may be a matter of finding the right med.
And no, she doesn't have to wear a scarlet letter. But it seems like you guys have gotten into an "all or nothing" type of standoff. Until you can compromise on things I'm sure you'll continue to have friction. For example, you guys could let said cousin visit, but have specific boundaries or maybe she could let you not be involved with that part of the family. There are ways to address this situation that don't have to be "all-in", but I think the first step is getting your depression under control and then getting both on the same page again. It's not going to be easy (believe me, I went through a similar situation with my wife), but if you both pledge to put in the hard work you guys can get there.
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I have told her on multiple occasions that I do not care if she wants a relationship with this guy. She can call him, write him, see him and comfort him the only boundary I have is that I do not want to know about it. I did understand that there were going to be times when we would see him but he ruined that for me when he was disrespectful with his eyes and actions in my house. Now I have a boundary that if there is going to be a time when we will be hanging out with him I will not be there. He is also no longer aloud in our house.
The reason I do not want to know about the contact is for my own mental and emotional well being. I know most people will consider this irrational, immature or ridiculous but for me in this moment of my life it is the fact. I also do not think he is a good person and/or good influence or healthy relationship for my wife but that is her decision to make.