"As I haven´t chosen this T, I´ve only told her I´ll think about if I want to proceed into therapy I do think she might think it´s not a good start if I present several things I´m sceptical about or don´t like.

Well, if you do present the several things you're skeptical about and she doesn't like what you say or she says that working together isn't going to work, then you'll have your answer . . . she's not the right one for you. I think talking and negotiating the process is a good thing to do. A lot of therapists would be interested and excited to work with a client who demonstrates the assertiveness to do this.

The other thing is that it's fine to contract for three or four or five or hundred more sessions. And it's also fine to simply say you're open to going and then changing your mind later. Once you commit to doing therapy with her it doesn't mean you have to stay until she says you're done! You're the one who is in control of how long you're going to stay and work with her. It's great when clients and therapists both decide when the work is done, but in reality, you get to make that decision. So you really have nothing to lose if you just call her up and make another appointment, and at the end of that session, you make another one . . . or not. You are in control of the entire process!

"I assume it´s better doing something than nothing, that is go into therapy instead of just sitting at home doing nothing. But as I have to pay for therapy myself, the wrong choice has severe consequences as you don´t get your money back if not satisfied. "

I think a lot of people have to pay for therapy themselves, PaulaS. I know I do. Like you, that makes it very important for me to find the right person to work with. It's why I have no problem walking away if I feel that things aren't right or a good fit. No, we don't get our money back if not satisfied, but that isn't the case with any personal service we pay for. If we're not happy with a course we take in college, we don't get to ask for our money back. If the massage therapist I go to doesn't get me relief for the ache in my lower back, I don't get to ask for my money back. If I'm not happy with my doctor, I can't ask for my money back. If the dentist I go to doesn't solve the problem I'm having with my teeth, I don't get to ask for my money back. I find a new dentist or a new doctor or transfer to a new college or find a new massage therapist. These aren't easy things to do, especially when you're in pain or hurting emotionally, but that's the way things work works.