my personal take is a little different.... I've done both thru the 20 some years of divorce ... I think I found true freedom when I could toss/give to charity the "thing" that I found of my ex's that turned up over time... It's sort of like "YES", I've reached that point in life where his feelings are of no importance to me...

that does not mean something extremely important like personal pictures or the like though - those I would still give him...