As I look for a new T myself Iīm as you a bit concerned about T:s who canīt express how they work. If they say theyīll adapt to the client, I believe they are not that sure themselves upon which theories they foremost ground their work. Every T has to adapt to the client, psychotherapy can never be standardized.
To me boundaries are very important to know about and thatīs one question I would recommend you to ask this potential T about. I find several T:s speaking of quite loose boundaries, that a client may "e-mail under certain circumstances" and such things and when the client does, the client might get unwanted reactions from the T. My point is that when T:s meeting with new clients they can seem more available than they actually are, Iīve experienced this myself.
They talk about being comfortable within several modalities although they perhaps have real experience from just one or two modalities. There are a lot to ask. I know rather a lot about therapy and by showing this to a T, you can also find out if she/he accepts a client who prabably will question them.
I wish you good luck if you decide to meet with this potential T.
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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
The training organisation I contacted matched me up with a trainee therapist, to see if we might work together. I spoke to her on the phone, and this woman sounded pretty nice. I was a bit  because it's her first year of training, and when I asked about modalities I got the rather vague 'electic' answer, and her saying that she doesn't put too much weight in the theories but about what comes up for the individual. When I look at the course she is doing, it mentions a lot of names and I think the course looks really interesting, but unsure as to what questions I need to ask to check out if she is going to be able to work with me.
I asked her about attachment, and trauma, and she replied that in her day job she works with people with drug addiction stemming from attachment and trauma. I asked her in what capacity does she work with these people, and she couldn't really answer, except that it's not psychotherapy.
I don't mean to be blunt, but right now I can't see what great use she would be to me, if she's only been training since last September, one night a week. I'm finding it frustrating that I can't seem to articulate precisely what it is I need in a therapist, and why I am hesitating about seeing this one.
What questions were useful to you when you were determining if a therapist might be a good match?
What obvious steps am I missing? |