Yes, I agree to much of the things you say. I was really open to this and I realise there will never be a relation without any faults. What mostly makes me hesitant is the lack of emotional connection and now, when I e-mailed her about whether I can or can´t ask her a few more questions before deciding, this too will determine how I decide to do.
I´m very wary to people who´s dishonest and who want people to perceive them in one way but actually stands for something different. I now talk about the feeling I have that this T will deny me asking a few more questions or she´ll answer me in a irritated way.
If she does, she doesn´t get the actions behind such a question and I´ll know she just acted out on being tested and by that also provoked. That´s what I mean by T:s wanting to seem unbiased when they actually are only when it suits them.
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Originally Posted by Lauliza
All relationships are a risk whether they are professional or personal. Since this is the only at you've found so far that is good enough I think it's worth taking the risk to continue with her. This is comparable other relationships - if you find fault with people so you can avoid the risk of getting hurt, you'll miss our on the good relationships too. Nothing in your life will change. And I think the relationship is bound to grow over time, whether it grow in the way you want it to is something you'll discover in the future. The office atmosphere is a downside for you but life requires the ability to be flexible. I go to an office like that and it's fine. This sounds very promising to me so I would focus on that and just try her for a while.
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