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Originally Posted by PaulaS
Perhaps this varies from person to person and depending on their theoretical orientation.
Iīve just now asked this actual T if I may ask her some more questions when thinking about how to do, and whom to choose. The first time, in the e-mail I sent, I didnīt use a question mark and when she answered back she didnīt answer or comment on if I can or canīt ask her more questions.
Now, because of that I sent her another e-mail, now with question marks and Iīm now waiting for her to answer me. I now also asked her if she wanted me to call her or e-mail her, also using a question mark at the end.
This is like a test now, being allowed to ask a few questions more even if I had my evaluation sessions already, is an obvious thing to be allowed to do as I see it. If she denies this, I donīt think Iīll consider working with her.
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Maybe it's because the Ts I've seen tend to lean toward CBT which is more collaborative, but I have never ever encountered a T who got upset if I asked them questions. I've been invited to ask questions and critique the therapy process. Otherwise they won't know that it's working. I think she didn't tell you directly in the email that you could ask more questions because she didn't think she needed to. You are an adult, so there is no reason not to ask he as many questions as you want- that is not something you need permission for.
I don't know if it's much different in Europe, but in the states there is usually one consultation appointment in the technical sense, but the evaluation process on the client's end can go far beyond that. As a consumer you have the right to terminate services at any time. Since you have such major trust issues your evaluation of her may go on for a long time and might actually be part of your therapy. I think she'd be open to exploring whatever you want to know and helping you develop your interpersonal skills.