I am the one a husband left. He said I used words as weapons and he couldn't take it anymore. He worked two and sometimes three jobs even when we had plenty of money. He bought himself more and more things, a huge house, and said it was all for us. He always had a young girl as a close friend and then started meeting one secretly, late night dinners, and now he is in Las Vegas with her. We wanted him home, not angry, tired stressed, frustrated with us. We just wanted to sit in the garden with him. Now he goes for walks with his young girlfriend and does all those simple things. He also says he wants to buy a nice house and enjoy his life because he has worked so hard all his life. I would advise you to just try going to a movie with you kids. Buy them a beer. Do the dishes for your wife or play cards with her. Ask her for a foot rub. Make your kids a lasagna or a pie. Just let go all the old tired arguments and struggles. It is really nice to have people you have been with all your life close to you. If things just don't work then keep on being a family. Get your own place but keep working for the dream you have honored your whole life. You'll have your peace and quiet and meet wonderful new people but you are lucky to part of something. Anyway that is what I am going to do. Just love my kids, act like a mom and be civil to someone I rolled the dice with on 27 years for a dream we had.