Hi Daisy,

A couple of questions... Have you ever dated anyone else besides your boyfriend, and if so, how did your parents react to other guys?

Your sister is an interesting aspect to all of this; how was she treated when she dated her fiancé, and/or other men during her life? Did your parents do the same thing to her as they're doing to you?

Perhaps you might to confide in your sister about what's happening between you and your parents, if you feel you have that kind of relationship her? Did your sister ever meet your boyfriend, and what are her thoughts?

Overall it sounds as if you have controlling parents, who will stop at nothing to manipulate and control you. When parents threaten their adult children with disowning them because of a relationship they disapprove of, it's all about them, not you. Being the son of a controlling mother who's currently going through a similar experience, I've spent a lot of time thinking about this topic very much. It's one thing if you were in a relationship with someone who was a criminal, or overall bad person that could potentially drag you down. And if that were the case, I think any well adjusted parent wouldn't react by proclaiming disownment, but try help an adult child in a more sympathetic way. This is purely lashing out against you in order to fulfil their fantasy of what they want for you, rather than what you want for yourself.

Like your friends and others here have suggested, follow your heart. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life, and that's something you don't want, trust me on that.

If your BF's parents have openly invited you to come live with them and your BF because of the situation, then I would suggesting taking them up on that offer.

One thing though, I would hold off if you can until after your sisters wedding. Bringing all of this up now, as you said yourself, could result in you being un-invited to the wedding, which your parents will use against you. Controlling parents will do whatever it takes to make you look like the bad guy in any scenario, and they'll use that against you and will blame you for ruining your sisters wedding. It's guilt trips and manipulation, so be very careful of that.

Good luck!