I'm not sure if I'm remembering correctly, but didn't you feel that your former therapist got irritated by your challenges and questions and you feel that was what lead to the termination? It makes sense to me that this has lead to you being hesitant to even begin therapy for fear of again being terminated. BUT if you don't talk about this fear with the therapist and demonstrate the behavior with this new therapist, you're not going to get an upfront, honest response because she's not going to be aware or cognizant of what you're asking. As another poster mentioned, tests are filled with flaws and almost guarantee that the person you're testing is going to fail. Why not make another appointment and tell her outright that part of your strong defenses in relationships is to question, question, question, followed up with lots of challenges? See how she responds. Does she ask for examples? If not, tell her you'd like to give her an example of what you're talking about. Does she consider what you're saying and respond with thoughtfulness and straightforwardness? Don't be coy and put it in an email! Be transparent and open to saying what you want. You can do this. It's an important skill to learn in relationships and you have already said you struggle with relationships and want to change things for yourself. Maybe begin here with this potential relationship!