Hi guys! To clarify a few points, i have had 2 boyfriends before my current one but my parents didnt know about it because i was young and still in h.s. To be honest those past relationships were more of a learning experience to decifer what i wanted and what i didn't. And i am more than happy those came to an end sooner rather than later. My current bf and I are each other's best friends and we both connect in such a way that is like no other. I honestly cant explain the feelings but i feel so happy when i am with him. My parents did not treat my sister this way at all. She had her "bed" made easy because her bf covered all aspects MY PARENTS were looking for, plus they know his family from previous years so it was an instant approval. I know they want the best for me, however growing up i always felt like my sister was more of a big brother watching over my every move-and reporting it to my parents. Don't get me wrong I love them all very much, but I don't have the freedom to live a life as a normal adult my age would when i am with them. They watch me like hawks if i am on the phone, at one point while i was still in college they would monitor my phone bill. Which was very unfair because they never did such things with my sister. I have kept alot in for my sister while growing up-always covered for her and helped her as much as i could have. But it always plays out to her siding with mom and dad rather than have a heart to heart with me. Even if i tried to talk to her about my feelings and emotions-which i have her response is "your nuts! you can find someone better that is worth your time. i dont like him and mom and dad dont what part of that dont you understand?"...i know missing her wedding will be difficult, but i really dont know if i can deal with the added stress to wait 5 months. It has been super difficult already on me and him both these past 5 years.