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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think when people are serious about each other they do talk every day whenever possible. Of course if it is casual thing then it's different
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This ^ is what I was responding to, just to clarify. Your statement is clear. If you're serious about someone you will contact them daily, if you're not that into them, contact will be less frequent....
But then you go on to add this....
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Originally Posted by divine1966
I don't think it is about "believing" it is whatever people mutually agree upon, what they want and what they feel comfortable with etc...
This is mutually agreed upon. Whatever people want to do...
This couple clearly doesn't feel the same about communication.
She wants more. It is unfair to say "oh I don't talk to people so it should be fine for everyone else. " clearly it is not fine for her so whatever works for someone is irrelevant.
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Actually, its not irrelevant, because its working for her bf, or has evidently worked for him up until now. I never said nor implied that just because I don't communicate daily, that it should be fine for everyone else.
The point of me even responding was to show the OP that there are others like her bf, who don't feel the need for daily communication, yet still care deeply for our loved ones. Others like the 22y.o poster before me, others like my bf, friends and family. It's not as uncommon as people online seem to think it is.
Just because we now have access to instant communication doesn't mean we all suddenly feel the need to constantly communicate. It's optional.
You're definitely right, its about what's agreed upon, and OP clearly didn't agree. So its up to OP and her bf to find a compromise that works for both of them.
I'm just throwing in my 00.02 so OP doesn't write him off based on a misjudgment (game playing) due to his lack of communication.