no offense but many times I haveheard the phrases ...you just got to get over it sometime....you need to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and accept it and move on....when are you going to get over it.....and yes the phrasing in your post .....I understand your guys's pain and struggles but at some point you need to embrace who you are.....

but what people need to understand is its not that easy as deciding to get over it, accept it, accept who you are, pick up and move on.....

Example most people with DID are in therapy for more than 10 years. it takes a lot of work....learning grounding, breathing, developing co consciousness (if thats possible sometimes it isnt which makes the healing process langer) developing communication (if thats possible, sometimes it isnt so again this can cause the healing process to take longer) trauma work (stabilizing their daily life, learning the therapy techniques to help them not dissociate while working on the traumatic events like DBT, CBT, EMDR, IFS, medications for things like depresison, anxiety, PTSD....) theres years and years of therapy work that goes into healing/integration with DID. there is no quick cure of pick yourself up by the boot straps, accept it, get over it...

a little tip for those who want to know how the brain works the part of the brain that is reactive when someone feels triggered is the amygdala which is not in the right or left side of the brain. its part of the brain stem low and centered. it is this part of the brain along with three or more other parts of the brain that is used when dissociating when triggered....here is a great link on this ...

Limbic System: Amygdala (Section 4, Chapter 6) Neuroscience Online: An Electronic Textbook for the Neurosciences | Department of Neurobiology and Anatomy - The University of Texas Medical School at Houston
Amygdala (Definition, Function, Location)