thanks everyone...Wantsto....i might have distortions....i am having a really difficult time handling myself and trying to understand certain things and this might be a distortion...plus they are a different culture ...so it could have something to do with that....and part of the culture i DO know is that i have to bend over backwards to get their approval ....to show i can "keep house" and take care of my bf ....lol...thats just their culture...well..it is just a suitcase...i mean it has my stuff in it....but hey...its not like im using it as the moment...and i really truly am happy about making sure others are taken care of ...even if i do without ....i might be making a bigger deal because of some other certain monthly thing that comes around...so my hormones are out of whack even more than usual, im pretty sensitive at this time....thanks for all your replies ....i do know this is a very minor thing....and when the time comes they will step up....like to help me and my bf with wedding plans/costs when they do eventually come up since my family wont be in attendence or included....so...i guess i gotta learn that even though its in the hallway...i can make sacrifices like that because they will someday make sacrifices for their sons and my future.....