Hello there I'm hoping someone out there can help me in understanding what's happening. First off I'm not the one who has cancer, its my dad. For the events up til now...my dad was found to have a tumor the size of a half dollar on his tongue. He was told they would take I out and 30 lymph nodes just to make sure it didn't spread. After his surgery they ended up taking almost half his tongue and 25 lymph nodes to check. Although he's recovering very quick, left hospital after three days and was OKed to return to work after only a week home. But now he's told me that 2 out of the 25 lymph nodes hey took came back positive for cancer. And he's saying he's going to do radiation and chemothereapy. I'm extremely nervous I have never heard or seen anything good come from chemo in my opinion its going to kill you faster then just letting things go their course. My dad isn't in pain he's not on his last leg but I'm worried if he does chemo he's just going to slip away and die far quicker than anything. I want to talk him out of it BuT I doubt I could. He's very positive that everything's fine...but I don't believe that. What should I think about all of this i mean I'm not so afraid to lose anyone...everyone's gonna go sometime but I don't want to watch him waste away on chemo when he could be enjoying life he has what should I do?????