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Originally Posted by PaulaS
Yes, you´re correct, my former T acted in a defensive way when I brought her complaints about some parts of the therapy. Those issues were though far more complicated than this matter with this new potential T.
I agree to that I have to be honest and tell this potential T what I feel but even if I now have done that it perhaps doesn´t solve the issue. I mean, she'll answer my e-mail but there´s a great risk she´ll answer in a way that just makes me more hesitant. As we have no more sessions scheduled until I decide I choose her therapy the only way to tell her this was by e-mail as she said she preferred e-mails before calls.
I told her how her actions made me feel and I questioned her about finding me interesting as a potential client or not. I said I think she overlooked showing a caring side to this matter. As this is communication with a T I don't fully trust their reactions. Perhaps she just thinks I´m demanding but she doesn´t express that and keep working.
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Keep in mind that this your interpretation of this woman's emails, not the actual meaning behind them. I think it's pretty widely understood that emotion is not expressed very accurately in email and that conversations that involve them should take place in person.
Also, you are not her client yet and she's not going to invest too much emotion into your exchanges until you become one. She honestly probably doesn't have the time to convince you to choose her as your therapist. It's up to you, either you want to see her or you don't. This is not personal, it is a professional exchange. Once you hire her she will hopefully deliver and give it her all, but you have to make a decision knowing that therapy is all about taking risks. There is no guarentee to how you will get along with anyone even if everything is perfect at first. Just make an appointment to see her, ask questions and see what happens. You don't have any emotional connection yet and that is appropriate at this stage of the process. This is a good way for you to challenge yourself.