Go with your instincts. Personally, I'd tell him to go do something physiologically impossible to himself, and invite some girlfriends over for ice cream. :-)

Your T is right. When I was first dx'd and really struggling with SI, I hung out around a bunch of others who did the same thing. Couldn't possibly have been a dumber move. It's very healthy that you realize that L is bad for you -- don't even think about feeling guilty for telling him NO. Just tell him "too bad, so sad, your loss, hasta la byebye, and don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out." :-)

You can do it! You're stronger than he is now.

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