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I hope you feel better. I think you should think really really carefully before telling the wife about you and him... Yes, it's the truth, and a part of her will want to know, but she'll be hurt more. I was in a similar situation (altho not with a married guy) and told the other girl, and I still feel guilty for causing her that much pain, even the guy would have never come clean. It's a tough one, just make sure you think about it first.

Hope you feel better soon, and it's a cliche, but there are more fish in the sea. Some unmarried fish too no doubt.

-Meander