Obviously you're in a situation where your parents just want to control you to the point where you must conform to their lifestyle, and what makes them happy.

As you quoted: "move on and find someone we can all appreciate. we are trying to make our family happy or people will look down upon us"

This is completely all about them and what they want, not you. The only other scenario is that if you've done something in your past that you haven't delved into it, that's making your parents act this way for some reason. If that's truly not the case, your parents are just stubborn and emotionally selfish.

I'm not saying it's easy, but you're going to have to eventually stand your ground and go with your heart, regardless of displeasing your parents. They'll either have to come around to accepting your choices as a responsible adult, or they won't. If they choose the latter, just remember it's them, not you, they made the choice not to respect you or what you truly want to do with your life. And remember that, it's your life, not theirs.

Don't end up like me, at 36, living at home with my mother, who's done the exact same thing to me as your parents have done to you; judge, jury and executioner about whom you can have romantic relations with. If you live by their rules only to appease them, you will regret it for the rest of your life.