Itīs now like a nightmare or something as Iīve now received an answer from this potential T saying that she believes we should end our contact. She didnīt comment at all on what I said and the questions I had for her about therapy, questions she told me was ok to send her, she didnīt answer.
She used the expression that she
believes we should but I think itīs over anyway. She got to know about my former termination and I told her, and have several times told her, that I saw our sessions as positive. I canīt really get this, I donīt understand it as she in the sessions told much about her being "open to conflicts" and she seemed understanding.
Iīve e-mailed her back and said I donīt want to exclude her as a potential T, Iīll now have to wait for an answer. Iīm almost in some kind of chock, I just feel empty.
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Originally Posted by Lauliza
Keep in mind that this your interpretation of this woman's emails, not the actual meaning behind them. I think it's pretty widely understood that emotion is not expressed very accurately in email and that conversations that involve them should take place in person.
Also, you are not her client yet and she's not going to invest too much emotion into your exchanges until you become one. She honestly probably doesn't have the time to convince you to choose her as your therapist. It's up to you, either you want to see her or you don't. This is not personal, it is a professional exchange. Once you hire her she will hopefully deliver and give it her all, but you have to make a decision knowing that therapy is all about taking risks. There is no guarentee to how you will get along with anyone even if everything is perfect at first. Just make an appointment to see her, ask questions and see what happens. You don't have any emotional connection yet and that is appropriate at this stage of the process. This is a good way for you to challenge yourself.
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