IŽm afraid youŽll be right in what you say when it comes to that using e-mails to a T will become a landmine. I though think that if IŽd presented my view in session, sheŽd still believe we shouldnŽt continue our contact.
The thing is that booking a new session with her had been the same thing as saying I wanted to start therapy with her. I wanted to ask her some additional questions out of the evaluation sessions we had and therefore I asked her if I could e-mail her or call her. She said it was ok to e-mail her.
I know I can quit even if I said I want to continue in therapy but that doesnŽt feel right and because of my bad termination with my former T, I donŽt want to get in and out of therapy several times.
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Originally Posted by Yellowbuggy
I understand what you mean. The point I'm trying to make to PaulaS is that her expectations of a T are far in excess of what can be reasonably provided. She wants to know that this T cares about her already on a human level, but the T doesn't even really know her yet.
I understand that this is part of the problem PaulaS may need to deal with in therapy. This same dynamic may be going on in other areas of her life, and addressing it in a therapeutic setting may help shed light on the impact it has in other settings as well.
PaulaS: I know I'm being blunt, but by sharing my observations with you I am hoping it will help you see how your behaviour may be being interpreted by others. Of all people, a T should be able to handle your behaviours as that is what they are trained to do. However, they can't help you if you don't show up.
You have to work just as hard as the T does, and that may mean being open to listening to the feedback of others - including your T.
I strongly suggest you do not engage in any email / text communication with your T. I can see it being a landmine for you.
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