Hey... from personal experience... I was married to a very controlling man a long, long time ago. When the time came that I couldn't take it anymore, I showed him the door. He tried everything to get back from breaking and entering my home, to bending over backwards to try and make me happy to threatening to commit suicide. It was tough as heck but I told him all that I could do was get him an appointment with a therapist. I did, he went and stopped begging. However, it did take another couple of years to make him stop playing control games with me. By then, I was an expert at calling his bluff. Thirty-two years later, we still share two grown kids and four grandkids. We barely acknowledge each other when we're at one of the kids houses and life goes on quite nicely, thank you. There are happy endings.

Remember, I was married to this man for 12 years. You aren't even married to "L," are you? It should be a whole lot easier. You just have to keep in mind what's best for YOU. His problems are his own to deal with.

Best to you!