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Originally Posted by Jaybird57
I've "tried" CBT and found it irritating and overly simplified (to me!). I needed something deeper and more challenging. You mention that independence and personal empowerment were your stated goals. I found CBT didn't do any of that for me. I found it frustrating because I felt as though they were telling me things I already knew (cognitive distortions etc.) and what I needed was to work through those things in a relationship that helped me look at how I connect/don't connect to another person<---simplified explanation  So for me, CBT was definitely not my cup of tea. It truly is "to each her own"!
PS. When I said, "I needed something deeper and more challenging", I didn't mean that CBT wasn't challenging to other people who connect with that form of therapy. I mean that for ME, CBT wasn't the challenge I was looking for in a therapy experience. |
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Originally Posted by mian síoraí
My experience with CBT was very similar, Jay.
I had intellectualized all my problems and 'distortions' for years; by the time I got to CBT (was referred by psychiatrist), the pointing out of cognitive distortions seemed so silly. I would constantly say, "but I know that, but that is not how I feel". There are often times where I say that to my current psychoanalytic therapist. "I know that, but i'm just telling you how I feel".
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That is how cbt was for me too. Plus I found it quite annoying to be asked how I feel and then after deciding to actually answer the way I did rather than giving what I knew to be the right answer and after saying I knew what the right answer was - the cbt one would tell my why I was wrong and tell me the same right answer I had just stated.
I think a huge problem is that a client cannot know about how they are going to fit with any sort of theory until they have tried it and sometimes gotten bludgeoned by it = and then it is difficult to change because of all the client blaming and shaming that goes on when a method does not work.