There are cases on here where it seems very clear cut to me that the T relationship is not going to work out. This is not one of those cases. Perhaps your T can modify to accommodate you, or reassure you with what you need to hear. Perhaps you will get to a point where your wants/needs will change, and the relationship will work. I think it's quite possible, but it's hard to know exactly what's happening & what will happen.

In the past, when I've felt I've needed reassurances from my T, I've had to push for it, to get past the interpretations, reflective listening, etc. I told her once something that I saw Illegal Toilet post here-- "I'm drowning and you're describing the water." I told her that I was well aware of all possible facets of the blasted water, and what I needed was some reassurance-- a reminder that I know how to swim, some encouragement that she believes I can make it to shore, some praise for my ability to tread water in the meantime, something. I told her that if someone in her outward life told her about difficulties s/he was having, I figured that she wouldn't go into T mode, she would be a sympathetic, supportive human being, and that I needed more human & less T. It ended up helping. I hope that something similar can work out for you.