I have noticed that of late, T is slightly uncomfortable when I talk about my feelings for him - or even mention them in passing. For example he will never follow up with a question about it. Once I mentioned that I was worried about the effect it was having on my relationship and he sort of turned it into a question about how I felt about other people I feel attracted to in general.

I am just wondering why I feel this from him. One guess I have is that he feels these feelings are not relevant to my therapy and he wants to steer me away from focusing on it. Another possibility is it makes him genuinely uncomfortable, even though I have never said anything explicit to him. At most I have used euphemisms like 'I want to be close to you' for I want to have sex (and it was very clear what I meant). I have never described my fantasies or even my desires in general. I wouldn't have thought a therapist would be so squeamish.

What I don't like is there there is something that I feel I have to be careful about talking about to him. I have though about asking him.....but of course he will answer with the usual 'why is it important for you to know that' or something, and I am not sure exactly why.