Hi Frack, it must be hard to feel you have to hold back and not say things explicitly. I can understand that burden of having to take care of your T's feelings while it should be about your feelings, exactly as they are...how can you be open and honest about how you feel, if you have to tip toe so much?! I wish your T could just accept and understand you. I am not sure why he is doing this, I agree with your theories.

Do you think you will perhaps ask him directly? How comfortable are you with him?

I had the same problem as you, in the beginning, when I told T. It took a year or two of my gradually getting more explicit eventually she seems more fine with my feelings. I do still constantly apologize for being gross and ask her to "take it as a compliment" and she always says it's fine, whatever I feel is fine....I have no answer for you, and hope you are able to ask him!