I would "get rid of" the woman with "psychic" abilities as I think she distracted you so you didn't pay attention the man and your relationships. She sounds like she knew a lot less than you did about the whole thing (since she was in no way part of it) so acting on her opinion instead of what you knew, trying to see the "future" when the present had problems, didn't serve you very well I don't think.

My husband left his first wife, not "for" me but because of me and how much better he felt his life was with me, etc. I was helpful and supportive of him and enjoyable to be with when his first wife did little except complain about how poorly "life" and other people were treating her, was "clingy," and constantly told him how he wasn't making her happy (not his job!). When he moved out into his own apartment, she changed her hair style hoping that would get him back. Clueless. "Real" men do do whatever if necessary to improve their lives just like real women do! But I have trouble (with myself mostly! :-) with the phrase, "I am going to. . ." that isn't followed by instant action. There's no reason to talk about what I am going to do, I just need to do it. Like the usefulness of your psychic friend, any talk about the future is not getting life lived in the here and now and I'm coming to see that, for me, that's one of the more important lessons about life; living in the here and now.