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Old Feb 20, 2015, 05:00 PM
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I don't find the T's behavior in this situation to be unusual or inappropriate. The purpose of evaluation sessions is for both the T and the client to evaluate one another to determine whether they are a good fit. Therefore, the T has every right to determine whether or not she thinks she can help the client-- and whether or not she wants to take on the client. I also think her comment about "negative transference" seems to fit. You've said several times that, because of what happened with your previous T, you have a rather negative perception of potential new Ts-- you've written numerous threads on this topic. You seem to find fault with just about everything the potential Ts do. So I would think the T's perception is rather astute. However, I don't think it is particularly unusual that you have negative transference-- many clients do. And most Ts have the ability to work with it. What probably tipped the scales for this T was the e-mails. You haven't shared the exact text of the e-mails so I don't know what they said-- but they probably made the T feel as though she either couldn't or didn't want to take you on as a client. Given that she is very busy, she probably already has a number of challenging clients-- or other clients who have negative transference-- and just felt that she was at her quota. Ts usually try to balance their case load and, for whatever reason, she felt that you were not the right client for her to take on at this time. I don't think you should feel offended by it-- just learn from it. As others have suggested, e-mail is probably not a good medium of communication for you to use. It seems to cause you trouble. Perhaps your e-mails come across harsher than you intend? You might do better restricting your communication to in-person contact.
Thanks for this!
Gavinandnikki