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Originally Posted by frackfrackfrack
Yes, I also feel this way, I know exactly what you mean. But the thing is that the first few times I told him about it, he seemed fine. The first time he asked me to describe what I felt like about him and we talked in detail about my feelings, how I would feel if he had sex with me, etc. Another time, I felt it hard to be in his presence with such strong feelings, and he asked me to describe what I felt. That was when I was most explicit - I think I said something like it hurt to look at him and want him so much, that I wanted to be close to him, for him to tell me what he wants sexually and to satisfy him. All of that didn't seem to make him particularly uncomfortable. It is only lately I feel that he became uncomfortable when I mention my feelings. It could be the case that for example, he is more uncomfortable with my feelings being love-like rather than of lust. I don't know.
If it is what you say, then I feel its a bit unfair of him to just avoid like that. As a therapist he should be prepared to hear things. He is somewhat newish, but I know that he has practiced with patients for about 7 years.
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Okay then maybe he knows enough about your feelings for him and don't want you focus too much on your feelings for him but analyse it and understand what about relationships with other man, I don't know how could it help if we just talk about our feelings for our T all the time because we stuck there sometimes. It's okay to sometimes tell about it but if your T knows about it.
Ts have difficult job, they almost everyday listen to their clients that they are in love with them, I'm wondering do they never feel guilty or bad or sad when clients tell them about, I would lose my mind if I were a T and someone were in love with me but yeah, Ts have to be strong seeing their clients crying and losing their minds because of love to them. No wonder they don't want to talk about but I agree that they should if clients want to.