You are responsible for your well being, and if going to certain meetings are causing you so much distress that you can't work I would say it's not good for you.

Sometimes old timers talk can undermine the recovery of people who also have mental-health issues because they forget that everyone's recovery experience is different and different people need different levels of support.

I found that I am generally in a good place when I attend one AA meeting a week, and one Codependents Anonymous meeting a week, but that doesn't work for everyone.

I've run into old timers who are convinced that what they did/do to stay sober worked for them so it will work for everyone. Maybe they did need daily meetings or they were out there drinking, so they assume you're doing the same.

Also, I suggest you talk to your sponsor about how much anxiety this "requirement" is causing you. On the coins they give out it says to thine own self be true, not "do everything your sponsor and the old timers tell you to do."