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Originally Posted by venusss
Are you trying to convince yourself? No offense, but you been here for few years and you keep posting the same things, about trying to find something you can swallow that would help you and at the same time dismissing things that you have to do.
Can drugs help? Oh totally. Can they help if you just sit on your butt, take little chemical or natural aid and do nothing else? Not convinced it work that way. Ya can take pills and herbal tinctures and believe in yourself at the same time.
Like for me... Bach essences help with anxiety and other issues. But you know what helped me overcome my social anxiety almost completely? Getting out and talking to people on one long term protest assembly. It just happened, I was so angry about the issue at hand that I put aside my fears. First few times I done it, I have been in daze, crushing upon coming home. Then I realized that nothing bad happens, that if somebody calls me a name or even posts my picture all over social media for everybody to criticize... One can shake it off.
Do I still have other issues? Sure. Do I use mind altering substances to help? Hah, my herbs take up one whole box in my kitchen and it's stuffed really tight. But I know they can do only so much... probably as much as if I went to doctor and got some fancy pricey prescription. The rest is on me.
One has to be hella resourceful if they want a good life. If you wanna include mind altering substances, that is perfectly fine. But they are one of the things, not THE thing.
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I used the whole quote, but what interested me was your take on social anxiety and how you worked it out. That's really great.
I wish it worked that way for me. The last time I went out because my wants outweighed my fears was to see a concert. I went well fortified, and the crowds... I flipped. Just could NOT take it.
I wish I could erase it from my memory.
But, the common wisdom is that one must confront their fears. And it works for many people. Just not for me. I can never get that through to people. Things go rapidly downhill. And the latent trauma can last weeks.
The thing is, it's not set in stone. I can and have gone places and done things, no problem. Where there were crowds, I mean, or just people tightly packed.
I have yet to find any combination of ways to deal with it. It has gotten worse over the years. I am trying therapy and meds right now. I don't think the meds do anything. The therapy, well, so far I have skirted the issue, just trying to feel out this therapist. So far, so good.
I could never find any 'higher power' or faith in any 'God.' Not when it comes right down to it. I figure if there is a God it is way beyond my ability to comprehend.
In essence, I have no solutions. Just questions. I don't think there is any one right way for all. Some solutions work for more people than others, is all. I guess science hasn't figured out the brain enough to help me much.