It seems therapy training is an education in name-calling, and I often see therapists use diagnosis and clinic jargon as weaponry.

Now, instead of a 3-year-old sticking out her tongue, saying nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah, it's ALL YOUR FAULT, the grown up can accuse you of "negative transference," as she's the moral authority who incidentally has superhero powers to read minds. Wooooooooo.

I've found the more authoritarian the affection, the more frightened the coward under the protective shell.