I guess I would say I deal with something similar.. The thing with me is though, that i can be liked and know how to do things that will allow people to like me, but since I had a relationship and thought that was all i needed, I turned away from the social world and ignored friendly people at the hopes no one would come into my life an try and ruin the relationship I was in.. Now that im about to lose this relationship, I find myself with no friends an a low self esteem that makes it hard to engage with people. I was much more confident when I knew I had someone to come home to.