alimak, I so agree. I have found it very helpful, like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders, when my T discloses something that may be helpful for me to know, given my situation. I swear, I sigh in relief. Ts are people too.... and having been considering divorce myself, it's been nice to hear my T speak a bit of her own experience with that. I flat out told her I found it helpful, because she's BEEN there, not just repeating what she read out of a book or something.