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Originally Posted by stopdog
I think it is possible to just want to post and get it out without wanting suggestions or advice. Sometimes just wanting acknowledgement of being heard for example. I quit making threads except for ones that were polls because I did not want to be analysed and no matter how much I tried to make that clear, no matter how directly I said that, it was ignored. I hope OP finds a therapist who works, and I don't blame her or believe I get to judge her readiness for anything.
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I agree. I don't see Paula as really asking for advice, but more venting. People, I think, often post based on being triggered or based on their own experiences in therapy. It isn't to be taken very seriously. Some people staunchly defend therapists as if they can do no wrong. Some people (me) tend to be more negative about therapists. I can admit to being triggered and perhaps clouded by my own very negative experience. I think this is based on our own personal experiences.
What scares me is the "sort of" diagnosing and advice giving that isn't asked for or helpful and comes off as judging. It seems arrogant to me to offer unsolicited advice and then get offended when the advice is rejected and make assumptions about the poster based on how they react to the advice. It's also dangerous and can do a lot of damage to the poster.